VIEWPOINT – First, let me digress. Thanks Drew, I love that line! I am disappointed in General Convention. I am disappointed that we are spending so much of our precious time here debating human sexuality. I believe that if we took a look at God’s Agenda for his church, the issue of human sexuality would not make the top 10. I am disappointed that we are not spending the vast majority of our time on bringing the Gospel to the World, deepening our own walk with God, and working to wipe out hunger, disease and poverty. But that’s not where we are. Where we are is we are. So back to the debate.
The 76th General Convention is working VERY hard to create conversation instead of debate, to create relationship instead of acrimony. We started the morning with something called, “Public Narrative”. And it’s working…….sort of.
Public Narrative basically entails taking 2 minutes (not even close to enough time for me to tell a story!) to tell your story and how that story has called you into your Mission. I have some issues with the mechanics of the process but I love the idea and the motivation behind the idea. If you know where someone comes from or what their experience has been, you can be more open to their opinion, their ideas and maybe even where they want to go. It was a good exercise. All but 1 of the people at my table were from our diocese and I still learned something new about each one. For a couple, there was more than a minor shift in my perception. A good shift.
The next effort in this vein was this afternoon’s Legislative Session. Instead of debating specific resolutions regarding same sex blessings and consecrations, we had 30 minutes to have a one on one conversation with someone that we did not know about the issue. My conversation was with a deputy from Missouri and we were very like-minded. Some of my colleagues did not have the same experience. Again, however, I was drawn into and reminded in that conversation of our sameness much more than our differences.
It seems that when we stay in conversation, we get much closer to being open, to grasping to understand perspective. But then we go to the public hearings on specific resolutions. I spent 4 hours listening to people talk, not in conversation but trying to persuade. There were some compelling stories both for and against the specific issues but in the end, I would doubt that many minds were changed or even moved. The same people said the same things in different venues.
So how do we move forward and, at the same time, stay in conversation? I am reminded of some very wise advice my boss gave me when I first took the family law bench over 14 years ago. He said, “Often the best and wisest decision in a family law case is to make both sides equally unhappy.” I’m beginning to think that may apply well here. If either “side” is a winner of all, there will be no reason to continue in conversation. If both sides are equally dissatisfied, we must remain in conversation. And in the end, I personally think that is the key. We must remain in conversation.
God’s Peace,
Kelley Kimble
Lay Deputy, St. Philip’s Uvalde
DWTX from Anaheim